With small children, you have a lot less time for yourself. But everyone really needs relaxation from time to time. Especially with a young family. Relaxation can be done together, but also separately. You may also have different ideas about relaxation.
How should you take care of your relaxation?
When you enter into a relationship with someone or have a child, you limit your freedom. Then you have to give up certain things to which you may be attached. In this limitation also lies the opportunity for growth. Bonding with another and sharing life also makes life richer. The knife cuts both ways. One loses something and gains something. When a child is added, time for oneself is even more limited. Often there is much less time or people give up things like hobbies, friends' nights out or work.
It is vital that you continue to have moments for yourself.
What is good to know is that partners often have different ideas about free time. Here are some statistics (So this is very generalizing and may not apply to you at all). Women who are stressed relax better when they engage in activities together with their husbands (Orthner, 1975). It may be that men who experience a lot of stress are more likely to feel uncomfortable when doing activities together (Holman Jacquart, 1988). Men who had a lot of time to themselves before birth sometimes experience less love for their partner and more conflict in the first year. Parents who did a lot together before birth had more love for each other a year after birth than before. In addition, some men and women felt guilty doing activities alone. For women, it generally does not matter if the baby is there while spending free time with the partner. It can also be good for men to engage in activities with mother in the presence of the child. In general, men need more to be with the woman and without the baby.
Take care of your own relaxation and also allow each other free time.
Many parents turn it into a battle and go up against each other as to who is or is not having the hardest time or doing the most.
The online Parents Inc. course gives parents the tools to very easily agree on this, so that everyone can take their moment!